Did you try disconnecting the negative battery terminal, waiting a minute, and reconnecting it?

The clicking sound is more likely to be coming from the solenoid (small cylinder) on the starter instead of the relay. There could be a short somewhere or the unit itself is bad, I've never heard of that issue before.

 

Stalkergc - I saw this solution in another feed I viewed and attempted it, no joy. Was hoping it would be a hard reset to the system. Turn it off/on works 95% of the time with computers.

 

It's probably either an issue with the trigger wire to the starter or the starter itself. Try running power directly to the starter or pull it out and take it to AutoZone and they can test it for you.

 

so if the car is sitting there NO key and is making a relay click with out lights flashing or anything that doesn't sound like an alarm.

unplug the ignition switch (pull the cover off the column) see if that kills the clicking. wondering if the ignition cylinder is bad

 

The valet light blinks like the alarm is going off. The power door locks function, as in the car reacts to them being locked/unlocked, but it just makes an awful grinding noise instead of actually locking/unlocking. I can actually disable the alarm when sitting in the car, doors closed. Problem is, it resets to armed and the moment I do anything, valet light goes back to triggered.

 

Wait.....does your car have remote start? I just reread your post, I'd check the wiring on that first.

 

No remote start.

 

sounds like a dead battery